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Teenage Female Friendships
Jul. 22nd, 2009 09:12 amPosted for Chris because he asked me to.
When I was a teenager I had many female friends that I didn't really have all that much interest in romantically. Even though I am (as I have blathered on endlessly elsewhere) a fan of unrequited love it was never really an issue for me as a teenager. I was very conservative growing up and didn't have all that much interest in sex so it was all right for me. But not for some of my female friends who had crushes on other males in our class.
One thing I've noticed about male / female friendships as teenagers is that very often one of the parties will have an unrequited crush on the other. Often they don't say anything buit oftentimes they do and that can either change or ruin the friendship. This is why I think the way Gwen Stacy reacts around Peter Parker in The Spectacular Spider-Man is so realistic. She's confused about her own feelings for him but isn't proactive enough to tell him how she feels. This has a bit to do with the fact that the show's dialogue isn't very realistic and draws things out in a soap opera manner but also a lot to do with the fact that a lot of times, awkward teenage girls who aren't in the popular crowd seem to have a bot of a hard time deciding what they want in a relationship. I don't think, as Chris does that she's making herself miserable by trying to ruin the friendship. I think Peter is being a clueless jerk for not acknowledging either her feelings or the fact that she isn't the most self-confident girl in the world. I just plain don't like the way Peter is treating her (it reminds me of how a few of the guys in school treated my girl friends if not quite as maliciously) and I don't think Gwen is doing anything wrong.
When I was a teenager I had many female friends that I didn't really have all that much interest in romantically. Even though I am (as I have blathered on endlessly elsewhere) a fan of unrequited love it was never really an issue for me as a teenager. I was very conservative growing up and didn't have all that much interest in sex so it was all right for me. But not for some of my female friends who had crushes on other males in our class.
One thing I've noticed about male / female friendships as teenagers is that very often one of the parties will have an unrequited crush on the other. Often they don't say anything buit oftentimes they do and that can either change or ruin the friendship. This is why I think the way Gwen Stacy reacts around Peter Parker in The Spectacular Spider-Man is so realistic. She's confused about her own feelings for him but isn't proactive enough to tell him how she feels. This has a bit to do with the fact that the show's dialogue isn't very realistic and draws things out in a soap opera manner but also a lot to do with the fact that a lot of times, awkward teenage girls who aren't in the popular crowd seem to have a bot of a hard time deciding what they want in a relationship. I don't think, as Chris does that she's making herself miserable by trying to ruin the friendship. I think Peter is being a clueless jerk for not acknowledging either her feelings or the fact that she isn't the most self-confident girl in the world. I just plain don't like the way Peter is treating her (it reminds me of how a few of the guys in school treated my girl friends if not quite as maliciously) and I don't think Gwen is doing anything wrong.
